Shared Parental Responsibility is a fact of life for parents, whether they are married, divorced or single. Sadly, couples sometimes become so consumed with anger after a breakup that it prevents them from co-parenting together as they should. It is vitally important that parents can come together for the children.
Having parents who are at war deeply impacts a child. While a breakup means that life will change for everyone, having parents who can find a way to get along, makes the transition less traumatic for the child.
One way to lessen the arguing after, or during a divorce, it to set up a prenuptial agreement ahead of time. This can at least take away fights about property, and money. Both parties will know where they stand from the beginning. Read on for more tips on making Shared Parental Responsibility work.
Make it a point to stay friends, or at least friendly.
If you have to fake it in the beginning, do so. Eventually you will find yourself able to move past the hurt, and into a better space. It can be difficult, especially if you feel you were wronged, however, you are doing it for your children. They are innocent in all this.
Keep the children out of adult business
Children never need to know the details of what went wrong in a relationship. Talk to your friends, or other relatives if you want to, but not the children. They should never have to choose who was right, and who was wrong. They love you both, they look up to you both, and that is how it should be. Do not take that away from them. Even if you think you are right, you will be stealing some of their innocence and happiness if you try to turn them against the other parent.
The trick to co-parenting well is never losing sight of what is important. In this case, it is your children. Be friendly or at least cordial with your ex. Not for him, or her, but for the kids. Keep your relationship issues from the children. They do not need to know, and in many cases, they are not equipped to handle the information. Keep in mind that things will get better, and easier. It may be hard to believe at times, but it truly will.
